lionswrath:

_{okay so, here is the deal. people shouldn’t even be warning you about something blatantly racist/ableist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/etc that you are doing, because honestly it’s not that hard and you should be aware of your own actions and the consequences of such, but if they take their time and do warn you about how what you are doing is wrong, don’t try to blame them for your mistake, because they are giving you the benefit of the doubt even when you are in the wrong. don’t create excuses, let alone aggressive ones, just apologise sincerely, fix yourself up and move on, don’t victimise yourself to gaslight them, don’t try to make it into an argument which you are bound to lose, naturally. it’s abusive, it’s malign and it looks even worse than your former bad behaviour.}